The voice of your inner child

The way this reality has been set up, and the way we have been brought up (not only this lifetime but numerous others), our focus has always been outside ourselves… giving others priority, giving their feelings more priority than our own, and we have consequently shaped our personalities to please – this is true for most of us.
Pleasing means: if I please you, you will love me, and this empty place in me will then be filled with your admiration and your conditional love (in most cases.)

There are a few things to be pointed out here:

- There is no “outside ourselves”, so this point of view was flawed from the outset

- If we are not at peace with who we are, not accepting of who we are, we are doomed to constantly pleasing others in order to be accepted and loved

- We constantly teach and reteach conditional love this way; if I am good you will love me, if you are good I will love you; if you please me I will accept you; if you do anything I do not like, I will reject you. Look at the way we bring up our children: our authority translates to the clear message: I do not love you for who you are, I love you for what you do, and if you displease me, I will withdraw my love. And we go on to live this way as adults – if you, my lover, please me I will reward you with my love. If you don’t, I will withdraw my love from you and if you persist, I may even withdraw all my attention from you.

- Giving to others seem to be what it is all about – and it is. BUT – there is a trap here. And if we do not understand the dynamics behind this we are going to fall into this trap time and time again, and this is it: we need to be complete in and of ourselves before we can truly serve others. For only then will be able to love both ourselves and others… for loving ourselves comes first, uppermost, cardinally important. Empty vessels contain – emptiness. People who were unloved as children, unparented, lost and loveless, need to be assisted to know that that love is available – and not from someone else, but from ourselves. We have the key to our own hearts… and it starts, often, with reparenting the lost child in all of us, that child who was not given the love necessary to be able to live a whole life, and often our urge to give is directly in proportion to the love we did not receive in our lives. Even if we grow beyond that, find that lost child and bring him or her out of the darkness into the friendly light, we remember the lonely room where we spent such a long time. And our remembering equips us with loving hearts and compassionate souls – the tools we need to do the work we came here to do.

Find that child – reparenting is not hard, does not take years – often just realizing that that part of you is still in that dark room, is sufficient to cause a shift big enough to empower that child, to assist him or her to move forward and to merge with the adult you have become, morphing from division to wholeness. This is the start of your journey to You, to the Source that You truly are.

You are loved beyond anything you could possibly imagine. You can access this love for yourself, and then – you can shine on others.

You are loved beyond anything you could possibly imagine.

Nina Ferrell
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