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We are all going through a massive energetic shift, whether we believe in it or not, and whether we want it or not. We signed up for this the moment we decided to step into another human life and like most things we moan and groan about what our lives are bringing to us.

Part of this shift is seeing people we love simply drift away from us, and people we love dying all around us. I have had more deaths in my family and in my circle of friends than ever before in my life. I lost someone dear a while ago, and I am still trying to figure out why.

It is simple. Some of us decided to be part of this shift, and some didn’t. Those who did are us – the leading edge…. The others are not in vibrational harmony with us and they are happily living their own reality. And so you will find that those who are not in tune with you and your thoughts and the creation of this reality will gently (or not so gently) filter out of your life and drift quietly away to do their own thing.

It’s not easy to lose someone, but this is not loss. We need to remember that we are all One, that this is illusion, maya, and that this game is finite, while our true connection with one another is ongoing and infinite, and love never disappears. The love goes on. We simply play our game in the way we chose to.

I hope this helps.

There is one viewpoint, one specific way of seeing creation – our lives, what happens in our lives, and more specifically what we see as trouble with people and incidents and events in our lives.

It would be true to say that without people, we don’t have problems. And so since there is no way of controlling others (we try to do that all the time – success ratio?) or incidents (more controlling of people) there is one thing that many of us is starting to understand through the teachings of Abraham, other non physical teachers, Wayne Dyer, Chopra and on it goes – and the one thing which enables us, truly , to finally get how our control of our worlds works (and control is possible), is understanding that THERE IS NO OUT THERE.

No out there, you really create it all – and your world appears to be outside you because that is the way your world is set up…
While we give our power away to the actors in our movie (family, friends, enemies, lovers) by trying to have them love us so that we can get them to do what we need them to do so that we can feel better, we miss the whole point….. and that is that we CAN control our lives, and the people in them – if we realize that the control is vibrational and not through action, and that we have control over that vibration. So the vibration that you send out, regulates the general vibration of your world…. And feeling good means that everyone benefits, not only you. And so focus on keeping happy, and in this way everyone and everything vibrates at that level!

There is no out there – there is only you.

© Nina Ferrell 2010

We are used to regarding our surroundings as hostile. When we evolve as beings, that becomes less and less so, and we start understanding that we control our lives. And as we understand that, we create different lives, and everything changes.

We all wake up at a certain time. It can happen that a huge group of people wake up together (remember, this is often not known by the person him or herself.)
What has happened and is happening in Haiti, is an example of this. From the point of view of their Inner Beings, it is simply a shift toward greater wisdom and a massive evolvement, done together. Those who have passed on during this shift, although we experience it as such an immense tragedy, are not gone. The door between life and death is become less and less solid, and we are understanding more and more that in fact, there is no separation at all, there is simply a shift in consciousness.

Of these people, many chose to remain alive and to do their evolvement that way. The others chose to pass over, and to assist from that level.

This is not a tragedy, although as human beings we see it that way, and of course there is the pain of those who feel left behind, who lost the physical presence of their loved ones.

The effect of trauma on a human being can be felt in two ways – it can either be cleansing, like a fire burns everything clean, or it can be something we choose to hold on to until we are able to learn the lesson that the incident held for us. What we feel and thank about Haiti has a direct impact on those people – if we hold them in light and love, understanding what is truly happening instead of being shocked and very very upset, we can see them evolving, understanding who they truly are, as this great group of beings move together towards bigger abundance for themselves and the creation of a massive shift of that part of the world.

There is no wrong here, no blame, and as I said before, our viewpoint of what is happening and our ability to love them and hold them in the light is contributing directly to their ability to lift their heads and look into the future with hope.

© Nina Ferrell 2010

If it is true that we create our worlds, then fearing our future creates fearsome futures –

What if we could simply throw all (human) caution to the wind and do what calls out to us? Take that plane to that place which has been calling to us for so long? Leave the job which has been slowly sapping our life? Turn our back on the relationship which turns our life into a dreary monotonous landscape?

The trouble starts when we assume that things “happen to us”, that we are powerless in the face of our troubles and our unhappiness, that we feel drawn into our dramas and won’t even consider for a moment that the possibility exists that we can simply walk out of them.

We hold onto our old lives because we think that there is nothing more out there – not another partner, not another job, that our security depends on us staying is this life sapping job because jobs are so scarce –

If we remember the times when we felt we were flying, no matter how short they were, when we allow ourselves to accept the possibility that we may truly be creating our lives, then suddenly we are attracted to people who also start believing it – we become magnets for events and folks who confirm our beliefs –

Our present fears can be turned into our present dreams, which will become our exciting and wonderful futures. If we can let go of them.

© Nina Ferrell 2010

Our intimate relationships are gifts. They bring light to us, reflecting our own magic presence back to us and we fall in love with ourselves over and over again.

Relationships are mirrors, nothing less and nothing more. We attract those who are able to reflect our imperfections back to us, those imperfections that need to be healed and embraced so that we can move further away from separation thinking, further and further towards oneness. And when the mirror sends back to us an image of loss, abandonment, pain, exactly that which we need to heal in ourselves, we back away in horror and we discard the mirror. And often we buy another mirror right away, seeking the beautiful image of ourself over and over, never able to integrate the pain, the abandonment issues, continue which will, inevitably, be reflected back to us from every new mirror, eventually. And every time we acquire a new mirror, we miss the opportunity to heal.

How do we find the courage to go on?

We find the courage by understanding that honesty is what it is all about. But we also need to understand here that the ego disguises honesty as an attack, very often, in order to protect itself. Blunt honesty, “telling it like it is”, is very often nothing more than an attempt to gain space, to hide, to step away from the inevitable mirroring of that which needs healing, yet again.

Honesty, true honesty, the ability to talk to our partners with the intention of assisting healing for them, is about healing ourselves. About understanding that no relationship should ever be left unhealed, because when we remain unhealed, we will encounter the same challenges again and again and again. The fear of hurting others often keep people trapped in relationships for lifetimes – know that fear of hurting our partners by being honest in love and kindness allows our pain to continue unhealed, disregarding the reason why we are in the relationship, and allowing the relationship to become a prison in which we become more and more disempowered.

We need to heal every relationship before we can leave it, because the healing is ultimately about ourselves.

Be gentle with your partner. Understand that their pain is their healing, and that yours is yours. Have the courage to stand back, to give them time to heal, and recognize that your pain is yours to deal with. There is a lot of talk of sharing in relationships, but I think that that is about sharing the good stuff. When pain and conflict arises, it is necessary that your partner knows that you are there, that you love them, but that you cannot go into that dark place with them. And when they eventually surface and are able to be open again, you will simply be waiting with open arms.

© Nina Ferrell 2009