Glory to Me in the Highest! You have long sought the Highest when it is you who are the Glory all along! Yours is the Glory forever.

If you could only recognize and accept a little of the Glory you are. If you had even a glimpse, a mere trace, of how Glory-filled you are, how happy you would be. The whole of the world rests in your palm, and yet you hold your hand out begging for a tuppence of peace in your life.

You want Me, you want love, and another name for what you want is peace. How you crave peace in your own home and in the marketplace. Think of a world in which peace reigns. Think of your home without an inch of friction. But the existence of non-peace arises not from the world or from your home. Non-peace as well as peace arise from your heart. Peace or lack of peace exists in your heart. You know this is so.

The enemy is within. This is a poor quavering enemy within. He is hardly worth the time of the day, and yet you bow down to him many times during the day. He has another name, this culprit, and his other name is fear. He is really a wimp, or he would not exist always in the shadows. True, he has a loud voice, and he assumes great ambiance.

Trade in fear for trust. Trust is quite another matter. Oh, if you would trade in fear for trust, beloveds, how happy you would be. What dancing there would be in your heart. Your heart would sing: “The wolf at the door is gone. The wolf of fear is dead. Hurray. The wolf and witch of fear are dead. Hurray. Hurray for me, and hurray for the world. The wolf and witch of fear are dead.”

When fear leaves, negativity of any kind has no place to hide. Everything untrue tiptoes out of your heart when fear slinks its way out. All the other tentacles of negativity in your heart are but the fingers of fear. Look at all that gunk leave your heart. Fear’s departure is long overdue. It has overstayed its welcome. You could have kicked it out long ago, only you thought you had to keep it, that fear somehow was part of survival.

Now that fear has gone, what is left? What can cohabit in your heart when negativity has made its exit? You and I, beloveds.. We can be known as the Oneness of Love and the Oneness of Peace. We are what is left in a heart where fear has vacated the premises.

Fear was an arrogant ogre all along. It made a lot of noise, yet fear was a lot of to-do over nothing. Fear was a muscle-man pumped up with steroids. Beloveds, stand up to the hollowness of fear. Fear doesn’t begin to be a worthy adversary for you. Fear is a shadow, beloveds, and one that chases you. Shadows are only shadows. No matter how big they may appear, shadows are phantoms. Like a phantom lover, fear has hung around you, eating off you, stealing your warmth in order to bolster itself. Fear has done a pretty good job of it. It has been twisting your arm right along, and all along, fear has been nothing but bluster. Now that We have gotten fear to size, he can fit through a keyhole. He can leave as you will. Fear is no bigger than a cowardly thought. .

Say: “Adieu, fear. Adieu.”

Say: “Welcome, God, love and peace. Put your feet up, and stay a while.”

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Today, start your day with wonder. Look at everything as if you are seeing it for the first time – because you ARE seeing it for the first time, every time you look at it…. You keep recreating it, moment after moment after moment, anew, all the time.

How marvelous you are – your angels are surrounding you, all the time –

Start your day with wonder.

We attract everything we need into our experience – and a lot of what we think we don’t need – but finding out, as I am doing day by day, that nothing goes wasted, no problem, no tragedy, no magical occurrence … they are all gifts from us to ourselves.

There is one proviso though – transparency. We need to have to courage to be transparent to ourselves and to others. We need to have the integrity and strength to expose ourselves, say “This is who I am. I am giving you the gift of my honesty. I am giving myself the gift of my openness.”

We hide from the world, from ourselves because we fear that we are unlovable. Perhaps we were not loved, most mostly I think it is our perception of not being loved that needs healing. Because we have never been unloved, never been alone, however strange and incomplete it may sound at times of challenge.

We need to be able to stand in our truth and say to others – I am who I am, I am who I am becoming. I care enough about you and myself to be able to work through what keeps me from being totally visible to you and to myself. I realize that whatever I hide will be hidden from me in others – that I will forever be going in circles concerning that issue, until I can bring it out in the light and take the consequences on the chin. Because I am strong, and invincible, and shining and amazing and valuable and deserving of all the love and support and warmth that I need.

I deserve openness from others and so I am vibrating on that level – because when I don’t, I will receive that which I put out there, time after time after time. I trust that I will attract to me the best I can possible be – because at this very moment, knowing this, I am already becoming who I am becoming, in all my brilliance.

We deserve transparency, everyone does. We can create that in ourselves and in everyone else, so the light can shine through into all the dark corners of our lives.

I choose to live out loud!

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The way this reality has been set up, and the way we have been brought up (not only this lifetime but numerous others), our focus has always been outside ourselves… giving others priority, giving their feelings more priority than our own, and we have consequently shaped our personalities to please – this is true for most of us.
Pleasing means: if I please you, you will love me, and this empty place in me will then be filled with your admiration and your conditional love (in most cases.)

There are a few things to be pointed out here:

- There is no “outside ourselves”, so this point of view was flawed from the outset

- If we are not at peace with who we are, not accepting of who we are, we are doomed to constantly pleasing others in order to be accepted and loved

- We constantly teach and reteach conditional love this way; if I am good you will love me, if you are good I will love you; if you please me I will accept you; if you do anything I do not like, I will reject you. Look at the way we bring up our children: our authority translates to the clear message: I do not love you for who you are, I love you for what you do, and if you displease me, I will withdraw my love. And we go on to live this way as adults – if you, my lover, please me I will reward you with my love. If you don’t, I will withdraw my love from you and if you persist, I may even withdraw all my attention from you.

- Giving to others seem to be what it is all about – and it is. BUT – there is a trap here. And if we do not understand the dynamics behind this we are going to fall into this trap time and time again, and this is it: we need to be complete in and of ourselves before we can truly serve others. For only then will be able to love both ourselves and others… for loving ourselves comes first, uppermost, cardinally important. Empty vessels contain – emptiness. People who were unloved as children, unparented, lost and loveless, need to be assisted to know that that love is available – and not from someone else, but from ourselves. We have the key to our own hearts… and it starts, often, with reparenting the lost child in all of us, that child who was not given the love necessary to be able to live a whole life, and often our urge to give is directly in proportion to the love we did not receive in our lives. Even if we grow beyond that, find that lost child and bring him or her out of the darkness into the friendly light, we remember the lonely room where we spent such a long time. And our remembering equips us with loving hearts and compassionate souls – the tools we need to do the work we came here to do.

Find that child – reparenting is not hard, does not take years – often just realizing that that part of you is still in that dark room, is sufficient to cause a shift big enough to empower that child, to assist him or her to move forward and to merge with the adult you have become, morphing from division to wholeness. This is the start of your journey to You, to the Source that You truly are.

You are loved beyond anything you could possibly imagine. You can access this love for yourself, and then – you can shine on others.

You are loved beyond anything you could possibly imagine.

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You are reading this because you were meant to. You are reading this because you have unfinished business with someone you love, someone you think you lost to death.
Read on, because you did not lose anyone, ever.

When we” lose” a loved one to death, we feel a door close in our faces. It is the most heart wrenching, the most final knowledge – that our connection with that person is gone, for ever. FOR EVER. Those words are the saddest words on earth.

I want to tell you that there is no end to love. I want to teach you that love is the path that you can walk through all dimensions, it is the chord that connects you to every person you have ever loved, and even those that you thought you did not.

Your personal connection to everyone in your life, at the level of your Inner Being, which is the true you, is always one of love and cooperation and adding to each other – never from a place of using each other, taking away from each other. Never. And on this level the door between us always remains open.

Negotiation remains possible. Evolution of relationships remain possible. There is never a situation of “I could not say goodbye – he was gone by the time I got there.” That situation only existed in your mind, because that was the way you saw it.

Human beings created death. Before our creating it, seeing it as a final goodbye, it never was that way at all. It was simply the next step in a journey which was very well understood. Until we got used to seeing something in order to believe its existence, and of course then when someone’s body, as we are used to it, no longer functions, when that person leaves, and the body is left behind, we saw it as the final departure. And death became the one thing that scares us the most.
With our evolution and our knowledge that we are vibrational beings having a physical experience, we are realizing that if we follow the love like a path through a forest, we will find that the connection is not broken, because energy, as you know, cannot be destroyed. It can only be transmuted or changed. And so it is with death.

Abraham call it croaking. I understand that most folks find that a bit difficult to stomach, linked as it is with so much loss and heartache. But I also understand that by saying it that way, they want to do away with death as a bogey man, death as something that ends everything, death as something heart wrenching.

Death is evolution into a greater space, a greater Us. It may not be croaking to us, not quite that term, but I vote for a word like promotion. Because all it does, is give us greater perspective on our world, a chance to come to terms with what we just went through, and a chance to regroup our forces.
You and I can contact our loved ones. There is nothing sinister about this. Some folks like me have that capacity, just like some of us are artists, some of us are writers, some of us are basket ball players, librarians. I am a reconnective medium, aware of the process, and able to connect those who think they have lost with those who know that there is no loss . Ever.

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God said:

You know the reciprocity of Oneness of Love when you give milk to your baby. Serving the baby is serving yourself. Your breast is emptied, and your baby’s tummy is full.

That is an example of love and how mutual and natural it is.

And if you give your baby milk from a bottle, still you are giving the love from your heart.

As you serve another, you serve yourself. This is how love works.

This is not to say that you divest yourself in order to serve. To love does not mean to sacrifice. To love does not mean that you are deigned to sacrifice.

You might say that someone who saves your life and loses his own has sacrificed his life. To say he, or she, sacrificed seems to imply that the person did what he did unwillingly and, therefore, at a loss to himself. When someone does what he wants to do, where does sacrifice enter in? He made a choice, and it was a choice he chose to make. Or We can say there was no decision to make, so full of love was his heart. Let it be so.

I am opposed to sacrifice. In giving, there is truly gain, to the one who gives and to the one who receives. Giving does not mean loss. Giving up something is sacrifice, and so sacrifice means giving the appearance of love in a spirit of less than love. Don’t sacrifice. Love instead.

Giving love is feeding another and nourishing yourself.

I don’t ask you to give up anything. I don’t ask you to carry the feeling that you must give up something. On soap operas, someone may be long-suffering as he gives up what he wants for the sake of another. I say to be true to your heart.

When a child of Mine feels he is sacrificing, he is sacrificing his own honor. Give but do not carry the idea of sacrifice. Do not even carry the idea of duty. Carry the idea that you are here for more than duty. Be dutiful in that you obey your parents, yet when you obey and grumble about it, you are not being dutiful. You are being resentful. Be agreeable instead. Duty protested is duty you impose upon yourself. Then duty becomes unwilling obligation.

Give with joy, beloveds, or it is not giving.

You are not looking for the title Hero. That is so little. When you serve from fullness of heart, even if no one else knows what you gave or even knows that you gave at all, you can know you did something that enriches you. Labels are not so helpful to you, beloveds.

Desire to have a full heart. Desire to do good for others and so for the world. Have ideals before you, and yet do not desire to be hailed a hero. A hero doesn’t conquer. What is there to conquer when all are One?

I dismiss sacrifice because sacrifice says you are giving more to someone else than you are giving to yourself. Have joy in giving, or you are sacrificing joy.

Nor are you to make sacrifices to Me. I ask you to accept more, not less. Give from your heart, or you are not giving. When you sacrifice, somewhere in the back of your mind you have the idea that you are now owed something, and so you are looking for a payback.

Give when you can give without expecting a return. The act of giving itself is meant to be your return. Do not impose debt upon another. No one owes, and you do not owe. Sacrifice is not a cycle you want to enter into. Giving is something else, and you are growing towards becoming a great giver.

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It is easy in all of this transforming energy to be confused about your relationships. We will specifically be talking about three different areas of relationships: Your relationships with others, your relationship with your loved one and your relationship with yourself.
Being a *Lightworker* who is holding higher 4th dimensional energy and integrating the *light* of the 5th dimension, you are no longer being told by karma or your original soul plan who you are to be friends with or what type of people will be in your life. This is a good thing to have happened; except some of you are without friends or would like more friends. You needed to cut the ties with those that you had karmic connections with; unless they too were ascending and you were able to form a new bond with them. This was necessary for your Soul to make the transition into the higher energy. At this point, you can have friends; you just need to call them forth…literally. Here is an example of how to do this: “I thank you Lord that I have friends walk into my life now that resonate close with my heart. Show me clear signs of anything I need to do to bring these friends into my experience. Thank you. Amen”

If you feel that people in your life are taking your energy or don’t resonate with who you are today, it is important for you to honor what your needs are. Most of you walk at the 5th dimensional level at some point every day. Because of that no one can steal, take or shift your energy. The only way you can feel differently around anyone is if you believe they can do this to you, if you allow them or if you drop your energy to the lower 4th dimension. Because we remember that this happened for most of our lives in the 3rd dimensional energy, some of us still believe it can happen now. I am being told to tell you that it can’t. To stop letting people affect you all you need to do is make a logical shift in your thoughts. You are now in a position to affect the world, not vice versa. That is the power of the 5th dimension.

If you grew up in an experience where the family relationships were dysfunctional, they still can be. If family gatherings are still having the same negative energy, you need to understand that your family members may not have ascended with you. If you are still experiencing emotions or feeling shifted when you are in that situation, there is still a lower energy tie between you which can be cut through forgiveness. You can do a forgiveness exercise for each individual in your family that you are experiencing this with to help clear your end of this experience. (I have placed a forgiveness video on my website to help you which explains how to do this quickly and easily.)

The family that we were born into was very specifically selected by us to teach us to love ourselves. So with that, most of us picked families where love was not given or meted out through control. This was not incorrect, it was perfect for us for what we wanted to learn as 3rd dimensional beings ruled by our egos. Now that we have raised our energy to the more loving 4th dimension, we no longer need to learn that way. But our family members more than likely did not shift as we did and accept the spiritual energy. Some of us still have family members in the 3rd dimension and lower 4th dimension. How do you deal with them as you ascend and they choose not to? You do it through love and compassion. You forgive them for the things of the past which will help you view each situation that comes up as fresh and new without all that emotional weight attached. Then you can choose how to feel and not automatically be told by your body or brain how to feel.

On this new, higher path without karma that you have agreed to walk on, you always need to let the Universe know what you need and desire. Things just don’t automatically show up in your life anymore. If you want friends and have asked for them and friends are not showing up, then you are in a small group of Souls who are working on other spiritual things where you need to alone for a period of time. You may be learning something that you will be sharing later or you may be integrating more *light* or many other things. There are many reasons for this and hard for us to list them all. Ask your Angels what the reason is for not receiving an answer to your request. If you know you are not working on anything at this time, then make sure you did actually make the request or simply make your request again. We are to have friendships now. It is important, especially for those people that do not have a major love in their life. It is necessary to balance your energy between giving and receiving. You won’t be able to give out love to others in this higher energy for very long without having an equal amount or more of love going back into your life. In the future when we have fully anchored the 5th dimensional energy, we will be capable of learning how to be alone and still share with others however, not many will do that in this lifetime. This is because most of our Souls are here to learn about different aspects of love and the easiest way to learn that is through relationships with others.

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We are all a work in progress, on our way to a higher truth, that of Ourselves as we really are. And as we travel this path which can be so uncomfortable, we attract to ourselves people who help is on our way with their wisdom and support and love.

I would like to call them our angelic companions.

The word “angel” is used all over these days, but to me this word denotes beings of light with the intention to teach, who show up in our lives in the form of human friends and partners. People who so obviously want to help in a selfless way, that there could be no other term for them but this.

And then of course, many of us are that too. Light beings busy with our own shifts and changes, also assisting and supporting others on their path to full knowledge of who they are. The road that we travel can be confusing for us as we increasingly realize how different the place is which we have just left, and how difficult it is to describe the place that we have come to.

I read this in an article by Karen Bishop….

“We are all having this experience now. We have graduated. And in this way, we will now be the angels that will lovingly watch over, guide, and be present for others who are well on their way. We will guide and teach from the experiences we have had and from the ways we have expanded and grown, evolved and opened.”

I think about the people in my life, at this time. I think about the loving, guiding presences of my own angels, my own teachers, some of them close, some of them far away. I think about my own changes and the appearance of new people, new angels, who only ask to be there for me, as I am for the people in my life.

All of us angels, light beings, pure love.

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Relationship is the most important experience of our lives. Without it, we are nothing.

Literally.

That is because, in the absence of anything else, we are not.

Fortunately, there is not a one of us who does not have a relationship. Indeed, all of us are in relationship with everything and everyone, all of the time. We have a relationship with ourselves, we have a relationship with our family, we have a relationship with our environment, we have a relationship with our work, we have a relationship with each other.

In fact, everything that we know and experience about ourselves, we understand within the context that is created by our relationships. For this reason, relationships are sacred. All relationships. And somewhere within the deepest reaches of our heart and soul, we know this. That is why we yearn so for relationships-and for relationships of meaning. It is also, no doubt, why we have such trouble with them. At some level, we must be very clear how much is at stake. And so, we’re nervous about them. Normally confident, competent people fumble and fall, stumble and stall, crumble and call for help.

Indeed, nothing has caused more problems for our species, created more pain, produced more suffering, or resulted in more tragedy, than that which was intended to bring us our greatest joy-our relationships with each other. Neither individually nor collectively, socially nor politically, locally nor internationally, have we found a way to live in harmony. We simply find it very difficult to get along-much less actually love each other.

What’s this all about? What’s up here? I think I know. Not that I’m some kind of a genius, mind you, but I am a good listener. And I’ve been asking questions about this for a very long time. A few years ago, I began receiving answers. I believe those responses to have come from God. At the time I received them, I was so impacted and so impressed that I decided to keep a written record of what I was being given. That record became the Conversations with God series of books, which have become best sellers around the world.

It is not necessary for you to join me in my belief about the source of my replies in order to receive benefit from them. All that is necessary is to remain open to the possibility that there just might be something that most humans do not fully understand about relationships, the understanding of which could change everything.

Essentially, what God tells us in CWG is that we — most of us — enter into relationships for the wrong reasons. That is, for reasons having nothing to do with our overall purpose in life. When our reason for relationship is aligned with our soul’s reason for being, not only are our relationships understood to be sacred, they are rendered joyful as well.

“Joyful relationships.” For far too many people, that phrase almost sounds like an oxymoron-a self-contradicting, mutually exclusive term. Something like military intelligence, or efficient government. Yet it is possible to have joyful relationships, and the extraordinary insights in the Conversations with God books show us how.

End of book Forward.

Now…from the CWG Blog, the week before Valentine’s Day, 2007…

You must never give up.

No matter how hopeless it might seem, you must never give up Love’s Dream.

And no, it is not required that living The Dream must hurt. If it hurts, you are not living The Dream, you are living a nightmare and calling it a dream, hoping that it will become one.

Stop it. Stop the struggling. The Dream has no struggle in it. If you are struggling, you are not living The Dream.

Now “struggle” does not mean the small discomforts or the once-in-a-while feelings of not-okayness that are encountered by any two people who have chosen to be together intimately. It does not mean the little differences that from time to time have to be worked out. “Struggle” means just that: struggle. Ongoing difficulty. Frequent and recurring and serious discord, disharmony, disagreement.

“Struggle” means that things that ought to be simple become complex, moments which could easily be serene erupt into turmoil. Nervousness replaces excitement, sadness replaces bliss, walking on eggshells replaces walking on clouds.

You are struggling in your relationship when wariness overcomes eagerness, when pain pushes happiness out of the room…and when this happens often. Not once in a while. Not now and then. Often.

One can’t ever fully relax anymore. Just when it seems like, well, this isn’t so bad, I can make this work…boom…the door slams, the bomb drops, the sweetness crashes and reveals itself to be not the stuff of sturdiness that can be counted on, but an oh-so-fragile thing that cannot withstand even the gentle touch of intimacy.

I am asked, more than any other single question about relationship: When is it time to leave? When is it time to quit?

I am asked: How do I know I am not supposed to be here, learning something? How do I know that this is not all for my own good, my own evolution? How do I know that I am not just “giving up” — again…?

I am asked: What does it take to make “love” work? And I answer, “Love should not be work. Love should be play. It should feel playful and joyful, not stressful.”

The intimate relationships in many people’s lives have not been long lasting. Happily Ever After has not been a universal (or even a common) experience. Indeed, it must sometimes seem to many that there is just no way to do this thing called Relationship and do it well.

People look in the mirror and ask, “Is it only me who has not been given the necessary equipment? It is only me who lacks sufficient understanding? It is only me who falls short on willingness or commitment or determination or skill or patience or selflessness or whatever-in-the-world-it-takes to make Happily Ever After work?”

Or is it that human beings are simply chasing an impossible dream? Is The Dream of real and lasting and wonderfully joyful love nothing but a fantasy that can never be fulfilled?

No. I don’t believe that. And I believe that people who have tried and tried and failed have, at least, the opportunity to learn from their experience. There is no such thing as a lost cause. Love’s Dream can be lived. That is God’s promise.

There are couples who have lived it, who have made it to the Promised Land. Some found each other early in life, some found each other later, after much trial and error with others. All has not been perfect on their journey, all has not been smiles and laughter in every moment. But much of it has been. And all of it has been worth it. Every minute has been worth it.

There are those who say you have to “work” at relationship. Anything worth having is worth working for, the mantra goes. Okay. Fair enough. But this should be the kind of “work” that feels soooo good to do. Like Barbra Streisand singing. Like Richard Gere dancing. Like Nancy Kerrigan on ice. Like Anna Pavlova and Vaslav Nijinsky and Mikhail Baryshnikov in ballet shoes. Like Roger Clemens throwing a baseball. Yes, there’s work involved…but oh, the joy of it, the sheer joy of it!

Yes, love — real love, true love, lasting love — may be “work,” but it should be a work of art. It should be something you love to do. A wise person once said, “May you always love the loving you are doing.”

Look at your relationship right now. Are you loving the loving you are doing?

If you love the loving you are doing, it is not “work” in the sense of being a struggle. It is a joy. Working to create something is very much different from working to hold something together. Everyone who has done both knows the difference. You can feel the difference, and no one has to tell you what is going on.

It has to do with effort and ease.

You know if, in your relationship, you are at a place of effort or if you are at ease.

Barbra Streisand sings effortlessly. The breathless grace of Nancy Kerrigan is effortless. That is precisely what makes it breathless grace. This is not to say that no “work” went into it. Surely it did. But joy came out of it. Work went in, and joy came out. When work goes in and joy does not come out, then “work” has become “effort.”

This is the state of many relationships.

When is enough enough?

That question cannot be answered by anyone other than the person asking it. But the question rarely goes without answer. The issue is not whether the person asking the question KNOWS the answer, but whether the person HEEDS it.

The next day’s blog

Many people marry or partner with the same person throughout their adult lives. Some people actually remain with the same human being, other people partner with several different human beings over the years, but it is the same person.

Many people remove themselves from relationships because they are not going well, not serving either partner, really, but then go out and create a new relationship with the exact same person merely wearing a new body. There is a different human being in the room, but not a different person…if you know what I mean.

I know a woman who has married the same man three times. Each guy was different, but exactly the same. (In this case, they were all alcoholic abusers, sorry to say.)

Why do we do this? Why do some people “marry their parents,” as the saying goes? Why do others choose the same kind and type of person to be their spouse or life partner over and over again? Some say it is to pay off a karmic debt. But Conversations with God says there is not such thing as karmic debt. There is, however, a Cosmic Wheel; a cycle of life that brings us back to the same starting point, and that gives us an eternity of opportunities to heal/experience what we choose to work with in our physical lives.

There is a way to break this chain, however. It is not necessary to keep running into the same problem in every relationship. It is possible to find and create a new kind of relationship, where we finally give ourselves a break from the age-old pattern. A relationship that is happy, healthy, and fine. The relationship of our dreams.

Yes, it is possible to have-find-create such a relationship.

The next day’s blog

The first step in finding-creating-having the relationship of our dreams is to get clear with ourselves about the real reason to enter into a relationship to begin with.

The purpose of relationship, CwG tells us, is not to find a person who can meet all or most of our needs, but to experience ourselves in the most extraordinary way…which is, basically, a person who has no needs.

Our relationship with everything was designed as the perfect vehicle through which we might announce and declare, experience and express, fulfill and become the next grandest version of the greatest vision ever we held about Who We Are.

We cannot do this in a vacuum. We can only do this in relationship to someone or something else. Therefore it could be said that, in a sense, all other people, places, and events exist so that we can create this experience of and for ourselves. Indeed, we call these people, places, and events into our lives for that precise reason.

They call us into their lives for the very same reason. We are all co-creating together, collaborating in the biggest enterprise the Universe has ever seen: God, godding!

We cannot enter into this experience with the most beneficial results, however, if we have not taken the Second Step necessary to the creation of all fulfilling relationships. Fascinatingly, this is a step that most people fail to take, have never taken, and have in many cases never even heard about.

The Second Step necessary to the creation of all fulfilling relationships is, fascinatingly, a step that most people fail to take, have never taken, and have in many cases never even heard about.

You must decide Who You Are and who you Choose To Be.

Very few people do this. Very few. Over the past two decades I have counseled privately and in group sessions with well over 15,000 people. Most of them have had issues in one of three areas: prosperity, relationship, life purpose. Nothing surprising there, because there isn’t much else going on…however, here is something that, at first, did surprise me:

Virtually none of the people who were coming to me had any idea what in the world they were trying to do with their life. They had no thoughts about their True Identity, no clarity about The Process of Life, and in no insight into the Journey of the Soul upon which they were embarked.

They had not made the most basic life decision: they had not decided who they are or who they chose to be. This made it extraordinarily difficult to live their lives in any rewarding or fruitful manner. They were like children running around with blindfolds on, playing Pin the Tail on the Donkey. They kept walking into walls and bumping into the furniture of their lives. They were getting nowhere, and tiring themselves out doing it. This led to anger, frustration, emotional upset, unexplained outbursts, and an underlying sea of discontent and disharmony upon which they set sail, hoping to reach the distant shore of goals they had not even set for their lives.

Very little in their lives seemed to be working, least of all their most important relationships. Flailing about in this sea of discontent, they reached out to others in the hopes of saving themselves from drowning. But rather than finding themselves being pulled out of their discontent and dysfunction, they pulled others into it along with them.

Relationships — and, most significantly, romantic relationships — can never work optimally in the long run if they are entered into for the wrong reason. They can seem to work, but even those relationships that appear to be providing some modicum of happiness are only touching the surface of what is truly possible in a Sacred Relationship that is entered into for the true purpose of the souls.

There is only one reason to enter into a relationship, and that has to do with providing oneself the opportunity to announce and declare, experience and express, become and fulfill our highest notion of who we really are.

Masters enter into all relationships — from the most casual and seemingly insignificant to the most intimate and important — not as someone who seeks to receive, but as someone who seeks to give. And what it is that they seek to give is the Essence of who they really are. Masters do this not for altruistic reasons (that is, to please the other and to serve the other), but for self-creating reasons (that is, to experience the Self as Who They Choose to Be). The irony is that by accomplishing the second, they accomplish the first as well. They do please and serve the other.

We can do the same as Masters do…yet if we have not decided who we really are, there is no way that we can express the Essence of that.

Therefore, the second step in creating fulfilling relationships is the making of the most important decision one could ever make: Who am I, and who do I choose to be, in relationship not only to this other person, but to all of life?

This decision will set the course of our lives. It identifies the shore to which we would set sail. It creates the target. It becomes the destination. And no matter how stormy the sea becomes, it is our safe harbor — one which we cannot fail to reach — for it draws us to it like a magnet. The attraction of the Self to the Self’s highest idea about the Self cannot be overcome by the momentary storms of day-to-day encounters with life.

This does not mean that we will never “end” a relationship — or that we never should. It does mean that we will enter them and “end” them for entirely different reasons than we might have used as our summons before. It does mean that our relationships can be healthier than they have ever been. Even those that we are changing can be healthy, for a change in the nature of a relationship need not lead to anger and upset, sadness or frustration, and need not produce the experience of damage or hurt.

I have put the word “end” in quotation marks in the above paragraph because it is important to understand that one never truly “ends” any relationship, but merely changes its form.

The next day’s blog

It is not really possible to end any human relationship. That is because there is no such thing as “time” and there is no such thing as “another”.

These are very advanced spiritual/metaphysical concepts, and the average person may face a challenge in wrapping his or her thoughts around such ideas. Embracing or accepting such thoughts as one’s innermost reality can change one’s life in an instant. It can certainly change one’s experience of relationship.

Relationships, in the normal human understanding of that word, take many forms. In advanced spiritual understanding, relationships take only one form, for there is only one form of relationship: the relationship that one has with the Self.

There is no one else but the Self. There is no other time but the Present. In the Present and Only Moment of Now, I Am All There Is.

I am aware that saying such a thing could be seen as remarkably narcissistic and arrogant is not considered in a spiritual context. I am aware that saying such a thing even in a spiritual context to an audience that does not understand or accept the context which is being embraced would also be considered unbelievably arrogant. Perhaps even blasphemous.

Therefore, I say these things here with some caution, presuming to be speaking to an audience that fully understands, fully accepts, fully embraces, and attempts to fully practice the messages of Conversations with God.

Given that there was no one but the Self — that God is all there is — everything we do with and for another we do with and for the Self…and everything we fail to do with and for another we fail to do with and for the Self. Our awareness of this changes, for us, the entire nature of relationships. It alters our understanding of how we are invited by Life to “be” with each other. Indeed, it changes the whole purpose of our relationship with every person and every thing.

The purpose then becomes quite simple: to create the Self, to express the Self, to experience the Self, to become the Self in One’s Total Experience. By Total Experience I mean one’s spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relative, and absolute experience.

Relationships, in the normal human understanding of the word, take many forms, as I have said. It is not necessary to take or retain any form in order to retain one’s True Identity. It is not necessary to function within the framework of any particular relationship form in order for the relationship with the Self to be fully developed and totally realized in the ever-present moment of Now.

Given the True Nature of our Identity, we are always in relationship with everything that exists. Therefore it is impossible for us to either “begin” or “end” any relationship. When, in normal human terms, we say we are going to “end” a relationship, what we mean is that we are going to change the form of that relationship. We are going to change the way we experience it. We are going to change the way we are creating it.

This is important for us to understand, because if we think that we are ever going to end a relationship, we are mistaken. You will always, and forever, have a relationship with every person with whom you have ever had any kind of relationship at all. (Which means, of course, everybody on the planet.) You cannot “end a relationship.” You can only change the way it is being created and experienced.

Likewise, you cannot “begin a relationship” or “enter into a relationship.” You can only create and experience your relationship with any other person, place, or thing in a new way. That is, in a way in which you have not experienced it heretofore.

When you approach a person you have never “met” (encountered in physical form in this present lifetime), you may therefore wish to ask yourself a simple question: How do I now wish to recreate my relationship with this “new” person in my life?

Remembering that the True and Only Purpose of relationship is to announce and declare, express and fulfill, experience and become Who You Really Are… there can be only two questions that are asked with regard to human relationships:

1. Where am I going?

2. Who is going with me?

Do not invert the order of the questions.

Do not — under any circumstances — invert the order of the questions.

Is that clear?

Are you clear about that?

Good. Then we can move on.

And finally, another blog, the final entry, from the same week…

So this is the week of Valentine’s Day, yes? Then it would be very appropriate for us to take a look at what Conversations with God has to say about love and relationships.

Most people, God said to me, enter into relationships for the wrong reason. The purpose of relationship is for us to create a context within which we might announce and declare, express and fulfill, our highest notion of who we really are. Very few people understand romantic relationships in this way.

I certainly didn’t in my life, and since I have been given this information I have found myself challenged at the very highest level. I have not always met the challenge. Indeed, I have failed time and time again to fulfill the highest notion I have had about myself in my relationships with others. Yet I believe that by my failures I have grown, and come to know more and more about what it means to be truly loving.

The first person that I have to be truly loving with, is myself. I know that sounds like nothing more than a shallow cliché, but I assure you that it is profoundly true — and immensely important. Loving oneself does not mean being selfish. It does mean not becoming a chameleon, not allowing yourself to change colors and change truths and change intentions and change the way it is that you are as an individual human being simply to keep another person in the room. It means loving yourself enough to be authentically YOU even if it looks like doing so will cause others to depart.

What will happen, in truth, is that certain people will depart, but certain other people will join you in your life in a new and powerful way. They will join you because they resonate with who you are. They are in harmony with the very essence of your being. They agree with your agenda. They hold the same intentions. They are compatible with you in many ways. They are not the same as you, but they are compatible. I cannot begin to tell you how important this is. A person cannot know — nor can you — whether or not they are compatible unless they know who you are in your Truthful Being.

This is a phrase that I have coined to describe a person who lives in, and comes from, his or her truth in every moment. I made a New Year’s resolution a few weeks ago. My resolution reads like this: “Tell your truth as soon as you know it.” For years I did not do this. In fact, for most of my life I have lied. I told small lies and big lies, trivial lies and important lies. And I did it because I felt that it served me to do it. Now I see that nothing has disserved me more. So old so soon, so smart so late.

And so on this Valentine’s Day I invite you to love yourself as you have never loved yourself before. Love yourself enough to speak your deepest truth to everyone whose life you touch. And especially to your Significant Other. Please speak to your Beloved from your place of transparency and total visibility in every moment. Hide nothing. Shield nothing. Stand naked before your Beloved not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. Let yourself be seen, let yourself be known exactly as you are. This will be the greatest gift you could ever give to anyone, and the most wonderful present you could give to the person with whom you share your life.

And so, this is not only an act of self-love, but an act of enormous love for another as well. For the willingness to be absolutely vulnerable and completely without defense in the space of another is the highest tribute that one heart can pay to a second human being. It says more than all the store-bought gifts could possibly ever convey. And it tells more about you than anything else you could possibly do in order to communicate who you are and how much you love.

The willingness to lose another rather than hold them in your life under false pretenses is the highest act of love. And the irony of all this is that having the courage to share what it is that you are certain will drive the other person away… is very often precisely what inspires them to stay. For they then know that they are not living with an “image” of you, but with a reality. A truth. The authentic article. The real thing.

Most people can live with reality. What they can’t live with is false hopes, misplaced dreams, and the knowledge that they cannot trust the words that come from the mouth of the person they love — not because that person is mean or cruel or deliberately trying to be hurtful, but simply because that person is so wounded that he or she cannot speak in words that can be trusted. They do not know their own truth. Because they have never identified it. Because they have never had the urge to speak it and to declare it and to announce it for fear of losing another. The result is that they have lost many others, over and over again in their life.

People with whom I counsel ask me how they can announce their truth to another when they do not even know it. They ask me to help them identify their truth, to come to understand who they really are and what they really want. I tell them that they must begin by simply verbalizing their truth. They must begin by talking. Out loud. To others. About everything.

How they feel. What they want right now. It may be quite true that many people do not know what they want in the long run, but it is not true that people do not know what they want right here and now. Everyone knows what he or she wants right here, right now. Everyone knows that. It is merely a question of whether we will have the courage to speak our truth about that. If we hold that truth in, and if we have done so for years, we literally lose touch with the essence of who we are and what we desire. We fall into a quiet resentment. We begin living lives of quiet desperation. We say less and less. We think more and more. We turn inward. And our significant relationship with our beloved other becomes unfulfilling — and we don’t even know why.

So this Valentine’s Day give the gift of truth. Forget the candy, forget the beautiful card, forget the flowers, forget the dinner out and the negligee and whatever else it is that you thought would be the “perfect gift” on Wednesday evening. Just tell the truth. Tell the good truth and the bad truth. Say the words that you know will be welcomed, and the words that you know will not. Be brave. Be courageous. Be authentic. Be truthful. And in so being, be the essence of love itself.

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(Excerpt from a channeling by Steve Rother/The group)

Reflected Light

You are an integral part of each other, spirits pretending to be separate from each other. While playing this game, you are communicating on many levels. You speak with your words and your laughter or tears. You communicate with your eyes and body language, and through your smile or the expression on your face. And you communicate through touch much more than you know. Many times these forms of non-verbal communication actually speak much louder than the words you so rely on. As all humans continue to evolve, you will see differences in all forms of communication.

It is important to first understand that all forms of communication are reflections of your light. Secondly, if you are overly invested in the person or persons you are working with then your communication is instantly tainted. This is when you feel them so much that you say what you think they want to hear. It doesn’t really matter what they think of you, and in a way it is none of your business. You will always feel them and be sensitive to them because your energy naturally bounces off of those you communicate with, but if that sensitivity influences your communication it will be an inaccurate reflection. That is one of the areas we are going to have you focus on as you work with this energy.

Deep Contact

You will be bringing a whole new energy into your lives as you evolve. As you do, some of the relationships you have now will drift away and others will stretch to new heights. Even though two people raise their vibrations at different rates, as long as you have effective communication between those levels and a belief system which allows you to expand your consciousness it makes space for that to happen. You will begin to see something new in your relationships, and this is what we wish to address. We spoke of it a few months ago. It is something we call Deep Contact. Deep Contact is a form of communication that you will eventually have with everyone. It is a soul level communication that you have with another human, but up to this point it has only been achieved with a very few. This deep level communication has evolved over many lifetimes. For the first time it is now possible to experience this with complete strangers, for you are starting to diminish the veil. Deep Contact is speaking to another person on a soul level right from the beginning of the relationship. Does it involve words? Yes, probably in the beginning it will because that is how you are most accustomed to communicating. Later it will evolve into telepathic communication, but the interesting part is that you will still have the separation. As the veil starts to diminish, you will clearly see the energy cord connections between yourself and others, and even how your emotions affect other people. You will recognize how your energy works with other people and your effect on the world. Something you will also begin to see is your own reflection, because that is what you experience when you reach the soul level. When you get to a soul level of communication with another person, you see your reflection, not theirs.

It is going to be helpful for you to understand this concept, because it will cause much confusion as all of humanity moves to this next level. When you begin to see these openings, you can make a connection with a person on a soul level. Like all communication, if you develop it, work with it, increase it, and work to help it grow, it will. It will become even get stronger, which leads to the form of communication and the achievement of the level of Timeless Love. When you reach that connection with another person, when you finally see your own reflection clearly through another person, you have a relationship with them that never dies no matter how many lifetimes you come back. You will always see your reflection very clearly through that individual’s soul. You have learned to reflect their energy clearly, and they have learned to reflect yours clearly. That is a very deep level of communication, Deep Contact.

In the beginning Deep Contact will occur mostly in love relationships. However, eventually it will happen with people you know, such as at work, or even with strangers at the mall or grocery store. It can also happen with a simple nod across the room, or a glance out of the corner of your eye as you catch someone’s attention. As you make that connection with another, that person can actually jump into your energy field and you can have a moment of Deep Contact. It will evolve to become your normal form of daily communication.

BS Separation of the Higher and Lower Self

We also want to tell you another part which may be confusing for humans. Many have belief systems that often taint your communication. We call these restrictions by another name: “BS”. It is not wrong to believe in something, but most change their communication to match what they think is the “right” way to be. This is a sad occurrence and will cause the most challenge as all humans rise to the next level. It is BS that keeps the higher and lower selves separated. The veil itself gives you the illusion of this separation, yet the veil is thinning rapidly. The challenge now is that with this new Deep Contact level of communication, it can be possible to have a deep connection with another soul only to hear one thing from their higher self and experience BS communication from the lower self. This effect will diminish rapidly, but it may be very confusing in the beginning of using this new tool.

What will typically happen is that you will find someone to make this deep connection with, but you will see it and it will scare you. It does scare humans. Sometimes even when you look across the room at someone and your eyes meet, it can frighten you because your perception is that they can see all the way in and you can not hide anything. But this connection is what truly gives you power. Yes, all humans are hiding something! When you are transparent, it gives you strength. That is what we are working on with you and as these things start to open, there will be many times when you or people around you experience fear as a result of this. This is the reason we spoke of fear last month—to tell you that it is only a vacuum, or a lack of information. It is only possible to be afraid of the unknown. So, fill in the unknown with knowledge and you lose the fear. When you can release the fear, your reality will change and your belief systems will change with it.

See a Soul – Fall in Love

There is one piece you will need to know as you start to see other people’s souls. When this happens, it is actually your own reflection that you are seeing. When you truly see another person’s soul, you fall in love. It is that simple. Many of your belief systems about love will not allow you to feel that, because you have always believed true love could only be focused in one area. After becoming comfortable with Deep Contact there will be times when you will go to work in the morning, perhaps you may have to take a bus or a train to get there, and you interact with other people along the way. You may call your wife when you arrive at work and tell her, “Honey! I just got to work and I fell in love three times this morning!” That is what this will feel like. You will literally start falling in love with people you see. It is very confusing, because it is a true love and your reflection that you are actually seeing. That is probably the most important part of this feeling…you are falling in love with yourself when this happens.
Typically a person will experience these new energies and they will take a step backward into their old belief systems. It is a normal process, so please do not judge if that happens to you or your friends. Many times they will move forward; they will experience Deep Contact with another person and feel enlightened by it. A common belief system here is the perception that they can only love one person, such as in a monogamous relationship. Yet any mother with children will tell you that is not true. We will also tell you that when you share that love with everyone, planet Earth becomes a magical place. That is when the veil completely disappears and you step more fully into your god-being, while still in the physical body. That is where you are going, and it is exactly the creation of Heaven on Earth that you have made happen by your expectations.

As you are walk through life you will encounter other souls, some that you will know—sometimes it will be your spouse, sometimes it will be a stranger, sometimes it will be a friend—and you will look at them differently and see yourself falling in love. Know that you are falling in love with your image seen in different mirrors. That is the same beauty seen in your soul when it is Home. Without the expectations or the belief systems, you can simply take in the love. It makes you more of a person in a sense, because it anchors your soul within your physical body. It makes you vibrate higher. It makes you feel better about a spirit pretending to be separate, and about the game itself. You have more to give to other people. When you see yourself becoming more transparent every day and people fall in love with you, know that it is just the next step and it does not mean you have to do anything about it. It does not mean you must have long term or physical relations with each of them. It does not mean that there are expectations that will come as a result of those interactions. It simply means that you are being the mirror. You are reflecting people’s energies in a beautiful way, to the point at which they can see their god-self in you. That is the nature of what is directly ahead of you.

There are many ways that humans can take this next step. One of them we have addressed and that is through fear, but we do not believe that will actually happen. We wish to tell you that you are reaching a critical mass of love on this planet, and it is happening partly due to the duress currently on this planet. It is happening because of the difficult times that you have put yourselves into as humans and societies. That is starting to change in a very beautiful way. You have seen it in your world as difficulties, as challenges, but it is not. It is an opportunity for light and for you to see yourselves in other people’s eyes the way you really are. When you do, we hope you fall in love with you.

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